I'm sorry if you do not agree with me, but it's how the things look, at least for me.
Thing #1.
For me, soulmate is like clothes and love is like shoes and accessories. You wouldnt know if the clothes suit you or not unless you try it on. And the mirror in the changing room is like your friend. Sometimes the mirror lies to you to make you look slimmer but sometimes, it is a true mirror. Not converge, neither diverge. And the clothes, you need to make sure does the color suit you, the cutting, is it your type? And what if it doesn't suit you? Pick another one and try it on. And the procedure repeat on and on until you found the right one.
Since you already get your best clothes, you need shoes and accesorries to complete the look. It is the same thing here. Since you have 'the one', you need love to complete the feels.
But I didnt say that soulmate is like changing clothes. It is just like finding one piece that fit you most. For instance, most of us have our fave piece that can be worn whenever we feel fat or ugly, or feeling nice and need comfy clothes to wear the whole day. And I mean, 'that' clothes = soulmate.
Thing #2.
For people like me, who experienced (not in my own marriage) and saw a lot, feel like marriage is not a guarantee for a couple to feel relieved and have happy ending forever. Because it can ends. For reasons. But it's not for all. And I think, marriage is like buying things at shopping mall. Why?
For example, you've been eyeing a bag which is a new arrival and has no discount. Since you like it very much, you bought it without hesitance, without any regret even it is expensive, or even if it will be on sale tomorrow in less price. And when you go to another shop, you find another design that's on sale and lesser price than the one you bought. But since you like the previous one so much, you do not bother about any other bag and you stick with that one. And go home with smile.
And I think, it is much or less same with marriage. When we found the one who we knew is the one for us, we didnt care about their imperfection, their bad attitude and we try to accept the behaviour, so the marriage stays forever. But if we choose the wrong one, once we found another yang better, we'll regret. And choose to stop the marriage and be with the other.
Hmm... Complicated?(-.-)
How things look, to you?
